Wednesday, 22 January 2014

Pick your battles

Most of my posts this year have been about getting involved with things, making friends and getting to know people.  You've probably guessed that one of my new years resolutions is to do just that.  But just like it's not healthy to go straight from the couch to a marathon, similarly you can't go straight from little-to-no socialising to being a glittering social butterfly.

Not only am I a bit out of condition at social stuff, but I also don't have as much energy to expend on it as most people do.  Social interaction takes a fair bit of energy, so does the 'executive function' stuff that seems to come naturally to some people, and dealing with sensory shenanigans makes my batteries drain more quickly too.  The end result of all this is that I can't just go to every class, group and shindig that looks interesting - rather, I have to acknowledge that I only have a finite amount of energy to spend, and use it wisely.

That's where this comes in.  It's a spreadsheet of my planning so far, with potential activities prioritised by how interesting and fun they sound, how likely I am to meet people there, how much they cost, their energy commitment (all-day events versus things that just run for an hour or two) and how well they fit into the rest of my life (10am on Wednesday morning isn't going to happen if you work office hours.)

Now I've consciously sorted them out, I can attempt them one or two at a time.  (One or two social events a week is my limit, with my current working hours.)  If the first ones on the list go well and turn out to be activities that are fun, rewarding and a source of social interaction and potential friends, I won't even get to the later ones.  But if the first few don't work out, it's not the end of the world because I have other options.